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In Remembrance of A WWI Hero

In Remembrance of A WWI Hero

         In honor of Veteran’s Day and the armistice that ended WWI  101 years ago today (on the 11th hour on the 11th day in the 11th month), I’d like to share the story of my own personal war hero- my great- grandfather. 

     On July 16, 1892, in the quaint town of Taylorsville, Mississippi, my great grandfather, William Grover Yelverton, was born. Life was simple for that farm boy with sky blue eyes and a smile that produced two dimples. He was raised in a large family that grew up on love, hard work, and good ole southern food and values. As his granddaughter, I have the honor of affectionately calling him “Daddy Grover”.

     In the summer of 1917, Grover was drafted into “the war to end all wars.” For a young man whom had never been anywhere but home, I can only imagine what he felt at this call. I have a photo of him that was taken at the end of his basic training that to this day sits framed on my piano. The young man I see in that photo was handsome, confident and courageous. I believe he was excited for unseen adventures as he donned a crisp new uniform, haircut and skills.

Since his media exposure consisted solely of the small local newspaper, his expectations of the outside world were most likely created in the chambers of his own imagination. Although I am certain there were fears of the unknown, I believe his bravery stood out front and center. I am so thankful we have a photo of that unseasoned boy because the man that returned home at the end of the war was a different person.

     Upon receiving his draft notice, he was assigned to the 18th (this later became the 39th) Infantry Division, 114th Engineers and sent to Camp Beauregard, LA for training. Sickness and disease ran rampant at Camp Beauregard. They were plagued with outbreaks of measles, meningitis, and Spanish Flu. This led to lobar pneumonia in many patients; overcrowding the already taxed hospital facilities. The soldiers were anxious to get to France because of bug infestations and poor conditions.

     When he finally reached France, Grover’s varied responsibilities included building bridges, roads and railroads for the 1st Army Corps. The roads they constructed through the Argonne forest were especially treacherous because of the mountainous terrain. They had to cut the path through huge timber and rocks and then level the ground. This operation was vital to success in the war so that tanks, vehicles, and equipment could be taken to the front lines. The engineers also built pontoon bridges across the Meuse and Rhine Rivers for crossing.

On one occasion, as the 39th division was in the river constructing a bridge, German tanks and soldiers pulled up to the river bank. American tanks pulled up on the other side and an attack ensued. Grover and the other engineers were caught in the crossfire and had to fight hard and fast to survive. Being the largest and bloodiest battle of WWI, infantry divisions were quickly depleted in the Meuse-Argonne Offensive. Manpower situations became so desperate that all available troops, including those slated as training, depot or engineer divisions; such as the 39th; were deployed to the front lines. That included my great-grandpa. He wasn’t trained as a rifleman, but he bravely fulfilled that role when he was called.

     In the midst of battle, Grover suffered the debilitating effects of mustard gas at the hands of the German army. Although he was initially given a gas mask, he was told during an inspection that it was defective and to throw it away. A new one was supposed to be issued to him but was never delivered. The mustard gas he was exposed to caused permanent damage to his lungs and significant respiratory issues for the rest of his life.

     During the war, homing pigeons were used as a new tactic to transfer messages between military lines. The birds carried letters in small canisters around their necks or legs. When they landed in the coop, a bell would ring and a soldier would remove the message from the canister. The 39th division was responsible for several war pigeons and Grover took great pride in caring for them. He mourned over his birds that were shot by enemy troops and tried his best to keep them safe, clean and comfortable. His love of animals, even in time of war, exemplified his loving heart and protective nature.

     The multifarious efforts from the engineers and their assistance in combat were such an advantage to Allied forces in WWI that Germany began to pull back and ultimately, the war came to an end on November 11, 1918. Five months later, my great-grandpa’s unit, the 114th Engineers, returned home to Newport News, Virginia. By the end of his military career, Grover Yelverton was promoted to the rank of Corporal.

     After Grover returned from the war, he married Wessie Butler, a young school teacher from Mize, Mississippi. Industry was changing the world and it was an exciting time in America. For a time, Grover worked on the railroad, a skill he learned in the war, but the lung damage he sustained combined with the physical requirements put him at a disadvantage. His employers were not sympathetic to his plight and rebuked him at times for not working fast enough. He eventually made the difficult decision to trade in his engineering days for farming.

Farming was a livelihood where he could work at his own pace and was a blessing to his young family during the Great Depression. Farming didn’t fill their pocketbooks, but it did fill their bellies. Grover and Wessie became the parents of nine beautiful children. Around 1938, they bought 40 acres of land and built a home and bigger farm.

     The trauma of war created many other struggles for this good man. Loud or sudden noises would make him jumpy and give him flashbacks. My grandmother (his daughter), remembered a time she was in the field with her dad. The approaching drone of a small twin-engine plane in the distance caused him to jump and run toward the trees for cover. That was twenty years or more after he had been in the war and yet, the trauma still lingered.

     At that time, the term “shell-shocked” was newly coined and highly misunderstood. Originally thought to have been brain damage caused by exploding shells, soldiers and veterans who experienced this were considered emotionally weak, lazy and cowardly. They were often reprimanded, labeled, court-martialed and some were even executed for this condition. Once, while confiding in a counselor at the VA hospital about some of his symptoms, Daddy Grover was denied sympathy but told he was probably “just schizophrenic”. Dejected, he vowed to never return to the VA.

     With such limited resources, many veterans turned to alcohol to self-medicate but thankfully, somehow, my great-grandpa escaped that trap. Instead, he found therapy in nature- gardening and taking long walks in the woods. I wonder what occupied his thoughts on those moments of solitude. I imagine he battled feelings of inadequacy, fear, and anxiety but I also hope that he felt God’s love and grace as he navigated through those storms of life. He found companionship in his beloved mule, Henry, but ultimately, his oldest son, “Brother”, became his best friend and confidant. Daddy Grover was very protective of his children and made it his personal responsibility to keep others out of harm’s way. It is my personal belief that his strong nature to protect and defend was a blessing to many during his war days.

     For the man whose future at one point seemed full of possibility and adventure, those ambitions were ultimately shelved for a simpler life. He gave so much to our freedoms and the price he paid was loss of respect and health. And though he may have been disheartened by his limitations, the time he spent sharing simple joys with his children and grandchildren- like how to pull up a row of peanuts in one fell swoop or how to cut a watermelon like a champ are the moments I wish I could have witnessed with my own eyes.

     After a lifetime of wheezing, pain, and coughing, William Grover Yelverton died in 1965 at the age of 73 from lung cancer due to damage sustained from mustard gas. I never got to know him in this life, but earthly bounds can’t break the connection I feel to him.

     Today marks 101 years since the Armistice was signed that ended WWI and I’d like to pay homage to him and that great event that preserved my great-grandfather’s life, and gave me the opportunity to be born. Although this tribute to Daddy Grover is long overdue, his sacrifice has never expired. The opportunities he dreamed of and fought for may not have been enjoyed in his own life, but were gifted to me instead. I am humbled to have him as my hero.

In honor of Veteran’s Day, I would like to express my gratitude to all who have sacrificed- veterans and their families, friends and communities- that personally paid for our freedom. Thank you!

How To Connect with your Ancestors

How To Connect with your Ancestors

     Can we really learn more about OURSELVES by studying our ancestors? Many people talk about having a connection with those who have gone before but there are also some who do not believe that privilege is available to everyone and question whether they are entitled to that kind of experience.  I personally and emphatically believe we all can find connections to our ancestors! You just have to know how to access it- or even know how to get started.  

     These tips are in no certain order, (in fact, you can pick and choose from these ideas), but are a few ways to begin to connect to YOUR ancestors.

READ THEIR STORIES

If you are fortunate enough to have written stories and memories of your ancestors, read them! Stories have the power to connect us with others in a way that nothing else can. As you read those stories, try to relate and imagine what they went through. What qualities did your ancestor possess that are admirable to you? What similarities do you find in their stories to your life? Do you notice any personality similarities? Even if their experiences were different than your own, ponder why they told the stories they did. What do you think they wanted their posterity to know? Why were they important to document and share? Take time to appreciate the gift of those stories and memories. They truly are a gift!

FIND, STUDY, & COMPARE THEIR PHOTOS

 This photo comparison above is of my great grandmother on the left and my daughter on the right Aren’t they both so beautiful? I’m so proud! And although my daughter may not be an exact spitting-image of her great-great-grandmother, I definitely see a close resemblance. I absolutely love doing photo comparisons with my family photos. It’s so fun to see how different family members can take after someone so much- even a few generations back.

 Some of you may say, “Well, you are so lucky to have photos of your ancestors because I don’t have any!” If so, guess what? Neither did I when I began this journey.  I literally had NONE!

Through researching my family, I was able to find some online (Mostly on Ancestry.com) and I found many others through asking extended family members- often times, I did not know them beforehand. 

Don’t have any (or many) photos of your ancestors? No problem. Check out my tried-and-true method for finding some!

Click the link below.  

Once you have gathered some photos, take the time to study them. Look at your ancestors’ features and expressions (remember that many old cameras had very slow shutters, and the subjects were told not to smile but sit very still so that the photo wouldn’t be blurry). Observe their clothes, their surroundings, and any other clues you can glean from the picture.

What can you gather about their lives from that photo? Make a list of ideas. As you study their features, what or who do you see? Do you see any similarities to yourself or other family members? Do some side by side comparisons and look for resemblances. Makes notes of your observations so you can combine your ideas with additional research.

When I began to make photo comparisons with my own ancestors’ photos and my living family, I had a fascinating realization. It seems to me when there’s a physical connection; there is often a very spiritual connection to those ancestors too. We inherit more than physical features. Personality, temperament, and talents are also often inherited.

Family history can be a mirror into who we are and why- if you are willing to look! The beautiful thing is that we usually reflect traits from more than one ancestor, although sometimes we may favor one more than another. This gives us the opportunity to investigate many ancestors and find connections with each one of them. Photos are a fun place to explore, but they, alone, will not teach you enough about your ancestors to make a genuine connection. You need details of their life as well.

Research your ancestor's life

To really get to know your ancestors, you need to research their life and gather as many details as you can. Collect the unwritten stories and details from living family members if available.  If that isn’t possible, study their life through their records and historical context.  Here is a simple checklist to get you started:  

    1. Start by creating a timeline of your ancestor’s life from birth to death dates. As you review documents and information, you can fill in the events and places. This will also show you any “gaps” in information and years and help you to know what to look for. 
    2. As mentioned earlier, look for stories on family history sites such as Family Search and Ancestry that other family members have contributed. Benefit from the work of others! 
    3. Use census reports to learn where they were born, where they lived during that census, what their profession was, and who they lived with, etc. Census reports can sometimes give you a lot of information. Make sure the VIEW THE IMAGE as it often has more information than what is given on the index. 
    4. Research the geography and legal history of your family’s location. Understanding these factors can give you a deeper perspective of the circumstances of your family and also help you to understand why they made the choices they did.
    5. Land records can give you specific information and dates to the family homestead and can help you to know when they may have moved from another town/ state/ country to their new land. 
    6. Church records can help confirm vital events like births/ baptisms, marriages, and deaths.
    7. Family records, such as found in family bibles, can give wonderful details into birth, marriage, and death information for family members. This is especially helpful for children who may not have lived long enough to be on a census record. I have found some of these bible records on Ancestry.com.
    8. Newspapers can hold a treasure trove of information- and even photos. You can often find birth, marriage, military, death, and relocation announcements- not to mention this is where you may find some mysteries and scandals!
    9. Document all the children they had and research them as well. By researching the whole family, you will discover a much richer story and find answers to questions than you would if you only research your direct line ancestors. 
    10. Find out if any of their children died young or went off to war, etc.
    11. What difficulties and trials did they overcome?
    12. Look in family books if available. These can be invaluable resources. Click the link below for a tutorial on how to find these books {for FREE} online.  

    After you have compiled all the information you can find on your ancestor, review it and think about their life from a personal stand-point. These were real people with real lives. What did they overcome? What did they work to accomplish? What was their legacy? 

    Get your DNA TESTED!

    And get your family members to test too!

    ‘DNA and genetics are truly remarkable! I continue to be enlightened by this journey of learning of my ancestors through my DNA results. I took a DNA test through Ancestry.com and have loved their features and results! Their genetic bank is the largest in the world (hence more matches), their science is advancing very quickly, and I am learning new things all the time about who I am through my DNA! 

    I never thought I looked like either of my parents very much but now I think I mostly take after two of my great grandparents. As I gathered any known information from living family members about them, I was so amazed to see that my DNA confirmed that I had a very strong genetic connection to those great grandparents. 

    The first one is my great grandmother in the photo posted above with my daughter. Her name was Ellen and I was the only child to inherit her blood type (that skipped two generations before passed down to me). She was my father’s paternal grandmother.  (If you’d like to read more about how my connection to her grew through a very difficult time in my life, you can READ HERE.) 

    I also feel a special connection and kinship to my great-grandfather on my mothers side. I got his close-set eyes (my mom did not! She got her dad’s Irish eyes ). I’ve learned through stories about him that I also got his over-protectiveness. I am not very outspoken but if someone I love is being threatened, all inhibitions go out the window. I can defend others much better than I can defend myself! Go figure. Ha! I was amazed upon doing our DNA tests to learn that I matched his side of the family higher than my sisters did. So, was my spirit connected and drawn to him as well? I believe it was. 

    Quick DNA Match Lesson

    You can learn more about your DNA by comparing your amount of cM’s that you share with  cousin matches in your DNA results.

    Centimorgans (cM) are the units of measurable repetitive pieces of DNA that you share with family that are used to determine relationships.

    If you you share more cM’s with cousins on your grandmother’s side than your grandfather’s side, then you can start to determine that you may take after your grandmother’s side more. You’ll need to compare as many cousins as possible to get more accurate conclusions. This process will be exponentially enhanced when you have siblings also take a DNA test and they share their results with you!   Viewing their results or asking them to compare their # of cM with different family lines can show you which of you match cousins higher and having their results to compare with can show you if you are higher or lower with certain family members.

    For example, if my sister and I both look at our cousin match, Joseph Brown, and she shares 328 cM’s and I have 435 cM’s, then there’s the likelihood that I have more Brown DNA.

    Cousin Matches on ancestry

     This picture above is an example of cousin matches on Ancestry. The best cousin matches are the ones with a tree (see circled tree symbol with # of people in tree under name and description). If there is a green leaf beside their tree, that means you both have the same person(s) in your family trees on Ancestry and you can click on that leaf to see your connection to them. That feature will help you to figure out your relation. Also circled is the amount to cM’s shared under the name.

    Make notes of each family line that you are connected strongly to -emotionally or genetically- and any details that described the family.  What were their lives like? What were their livelihoods, talents, traditions, religion, etc.  How do you feel about each of those lifestyles? Have you shared any similar life experiences? 

    Also, make a list of WHO YOU ARE to the core.  What are your talents, fears, beliefs, etc.  Start making comparisons to see if you think any of those things could be inherited. How are you similar or different from your immediate family members? If everyone was a product of their environment, then all siblings would turn out the same.  Right? (Or, for the most part.)

    But they don’t. There is much more to us than just environmental influences and genetics play a big role in who we are. 

    This may sound like a tedious process, but actually, it is so FUN!  You will find that discovering connections typically won’t be difficult or forced at all.  As you learn about your ancestors or look at that photo, you will feel something inside of you. It will come naturally. Sometimes you will connect over a similarity or common trait or talent.  But most often, you will connect over love. As you discover what your ancestor’s life was like, even if you can’t relate, you will have an admiration for them and love them for their strength, faith, and endurance.  That connection will continue to grow and you will feel that they are part of you and you are part of them. 

    And really, weren’t they all along? I certainly believe so! I just think we may not have taken the time to notice.  Learning about my ancestors has been one of the greatest things I have ever done.  It’s hard to explain the power and love that accompanies this journey- much like it is hard to explain a parent’s love for a child.  But it is natural and incredibly strong and can come on so suddenly.  If you haven’t had that experience yet, don’t give up. Keep learning and searching and one day, I know you will have an opportunity to love and connect with your ancestors. 

    Have you had any experiences connecting with your ancestors? I’d love to hear about it. Comment below! 

    A Time and a Place for Family History

    A Time and a Place for Family History

     

    I always knew that I would do family history someday.  I took pride in my heritage and loved my family, but I figured there was a time and a season to everything and this season was for raising my children.  Although that too was true, I also didn’t realize how much family history could benefit my life now until the experience found and changed me.  

    Three years ago today, I had what could only be described as a spiritual experience challenge me to learn about my great grandfather. I knew that he was a WWI veteran who had suffered the effects of mustard gas, but I really didn’t know much else. The nagging sense of responsibility I suddenly felt to learn more about him would help me through some very difficult challenges in my own life as I cared for a chronically sick child, and also would change my life forever. What started out as something simple, became an awakening in my soul. I found an instant love of family history. 

    Along this path, I have formed friends with like-minded people. I have found cousins and ultimately, I found myself. It may sound strange, but I have never felt so much like myself as I have since I started doing family history. It has become a passion and calling for me.

     For a while now, I have felt the need to start my own website where I can help others. That nagging feeling of responsibility is back and I am embarking into another chapter of this journey. My hope is that any of you who would like to know more about family history may glean some inspiration and help from this site. It may only be in its infancy stage, but there is love and meaning behind every part so far- including the name. The name is Kindred Grove, which was inspired by the man who started it all for me- Grover Yelverton. So, to my great grandpa, and to all of you who have forged this path with me over these last few years- this is for you and I thank you!

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