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The Powerful Truth about Family History Miracles

The Powerful Truth about Family History Miracles

Family History will bring miracles to your life and to the lives of those you love.

 – Wendy Watson Nelson

This quote resonates with me in a big way because I have lived it. I have experienced family history miracles many times in the last few years. 

It wasn’t why I started doing family history however, it is one of the reasons I continue. When I heard those words for the first time, tears filled my eyes because I knew without a doubt that not only were family history miracles real, but I had been fortunate enough, through a series of blessings, to experience them.  

When you have something that brings you joy and gives new meaning to life, you want to share it with those around you. I’ve heard people question the authenticity of whether this is true. So, I feel it is my desire and duty to open up about some of the miracles and tender mercies I have experienced and let you know that you can also witness family history miracles in your life. 

WHY FAMILY HISTORY MIRACLES MEAN SO MUCH TO ME

Faith has always been a driving force in my life. But I have also had many times when I have prayed and pleaded for blessings, which after waiting for what seemed too long, wondered if those blessings would ever come. I’ve questioned whether God heard my prayers… If I mattered. I’ve had many thinking errors (and still do) because life is hard! And it’s even harder when you ask for much-needed blessings for the right reasons, and those blessings seem slow to arrive. Experiencing family history miracles has helped me so much to push those negative thoughts away. They have helped me realize that God is aware of me and that my life is meaningful. Instead of guessing myself, I find that I feel more purpose and direction. That is why I want to share my story- in hopes that it will give you that hope as well. 

AN OPPORTUNITY

After about a year after I began researching my family history, I got the opportunity to go home to Mississippi. It had been more than ten years since I had been back. I had been busy (and often broke) from having and raising my babies in Utah. Needless to say, I was so excited about this trip because, for the first time, I realized it wasn’t only my home. It was the home to many of my ancestors, too- and I couldn’t wait to see what I could discover.

My dad invited me not only to stay at his house but to come and find all the old family pictures. However, he warned me that they were all over the house- tucked in drawers, closets, and even in the attic. He wasn’t sure what was there or the condition they were in, but they were mine for the taking. I was giddy with excitement and definitely up for the challenge. You see, when I started, I had precisely ZERO photos of my ancestors. I got a few copies from family members and found a handful online, but most of my tree was still bare and I couldn’t wait to dig in.

GOING HOME

I’ll never forget the day I got to Mississippi. I rode with my dad to his house as he drove down those pitch black, winding, pine-lined roads. After miles and miles of the country, we finally pulled up in the gravel driveway to my dad’s house. Somehow the driveway was shorter than it used to be, and the house was closer to the road (but not really).
Oh, how age can affect the size of your memories.

I got out of the truck and looked at the house. It was home to me, although I never lived there. However, it was the most permanent home in my youth. I moved every year of my life growing up. We didn’t have much after my parents divorced, and my mom went back to school. So, we’d live in one dumpy house until the lease ran out, and then we’d move on to the next dumpy house.

Oh, but this one was different. It was a dream- not because it was extravagant or fancy in any way, but because it held a million or two memories- some of which were my own.

MEMORY LANE

I stood there looking at the home my great-grandpa built with his own two hands 100 years earlier. He and my great-grandmother raised their family in that house. It was where my grandmother grew up, where her dates picked her up and dropped her off, where she dreamed and planned her life in her young mind and heart. She learned to sew in that house and where her mother made the most amazing quilts and chocolate chess pies. There were acres of farmland where my great-grandpa grew the best-voted tomatoes in the whole state of Mississippi and every other vegetable too.

 

My grandmother learned to fish at the pond behind the house. Eventually, my dad followed suit. Years later, I did too. I was so proud of the fact that somehow I ALWAYS caught the first fish. 🙂

Looking at the porch, I remembered when my great-grandpa taught me how to make newspaper sailboats to race down the driveway during one torrential downpour. He was the only grandpa I ever knew in this life, and the few memories I have of him and playing out in the country are precious to me.

NOSTALGIA

My dad unlocked the door, and I walked inside. I slowly and deliberately breathed in the nostalgia. It smelled exactly the way it always did- a scent I had forgotten until I experienced it again. I didn’t realize that I still had that memory, but it came back in full force. If only I could have bottled up some to take home with me. I walked through the house, savoring every detail and memory.

Later that night, I started looking for photos- checking every nook and cranny. I took my loot to the dining table and began sorting. It was so much fun going through all the memories from across the years. I compiled a small stack of old photos- which I only hoped would grow as I went through everything.

A couple of days later, my dad and husband helped me tackle the attic. We grabbed all of the boxes that possibly had photos in them and took them down. It was a big job, but I didn’t want to waste a single minute of this opportunity. Without any idea of what else was in store, I planned to accomplish many things during my trip. My husband and I explored cemeteries, local genealogy libraries, etc. during my days there, and spent my evenings going through the boxes.

THE MESSAGE

Two days before I left, I was doing my best to be productive with my limited time there and still had so much to do. I picked up one big box and began looking through it. It appeared to be just old bank statements and bills, but since most of the photos I found had been in boxes that were a mix of pictures and old papers, I wanted to check and make sure. However, I decided not to take everything out of the box as I had done with others for time’s sake. There were stacks and stacks of envelopes, but all I saw underneath were more papers. 

Only wanting the good stuff , I had no desire or time to organize garbage, so I decided that this box was not worth my time. I carried it to the dining room corner and set it on the stack of the other boxes that needed tossing. 

 As soon as my hands lifted from that box, I felt a sudden and intense panic feeling. It was as if someone screamed at me, “Nooooooo!” I stood there stunned, trying to process my sudden anxiousness. Taking a deep breath, I tried to abate the tightness in my chest but it wouldn’t release. Finally, I sighed and gave an audible, “OK!!!” 

I got the message. 

FRUSTRATION

The dreadful box went back to the table and I began taking out every envelope and paper stuffed in there. It wasn’t a small feat because it was packed full. But this time, I carefully inspected each piece to make sure I didn’t overlook something.

About 20 minutes later, I was about 75% through the box. There had been NOTHING of worth so far, and I began to feel frustrated and angry with myself for being paranoid. I had wasted almost a half an hour of precious time. Kicking myself, I figured I had made it this far- I might as well finish the box. I was even more frustrated and shook my head when I finally got to the last paper in the box, which didn’t look any more promising than the hundreds of other worthless documents before it. Reaching in, I lifted it out of the box, feeling flustered.
And that’s when I saw it underneath the very last envelope. 

At first glance, it looked like a 2X3 note with handwriting on it. But wait.
Was it a photo??? I reached inside and lifted the frail little piece of paper.
The inscription said, “Dreamers and first load of lumber for the house” with the date 1918 in the corner.

DREAMERS

My heart started pounding. I turned it over slowly, afraid of my own excitement. But when I did, I discovered that it was a photo. I couldn’t believe what I was saw- a cute young couple set in sepia, resting on a pile of lumber. The young man’s head was turned slightly and he had a far off look on his face. It was as if he was dreaming of the future he wanted to build for his young family. The girl cradled her belly. You see, a house wasn’t her only dream. She had a far greater dream just beneath her heart- a baby girl.

They were my great-grandparents. The expectant baby was my grandmother- showing up in her first photo ever. And the lumber became the very walls that surrounded me at that very moment- my family’s homestead. 

LOST AND FOUND

Reeling, I took a picture with my phone, including the inscription on the back and texted it to my aunt. She’s the one I turn to when I have questions about my grandparents and the rest of the family. I asked if she had a copy of it. I expected her to say yes since she had inherited most of her mother’s memorabilia. 

Her answer brought tears to my eyes when she said, “I have never seen that photo in my life. What an incredible piece of history you have found!” She didn’t know that I almost didn’t. How easily that photo, a capture of that formidable moment in my family’s history, was almost lost forever. 

I got angry over the warning not to walk away from the box because I didn’t understand or trust it. Thankfully, someone insisted and helped me see it through anyway. I genuinely believe that someone was there to help me with that significant family discovery. That photo is the one I treasure most from my trip. My experience may not seem to be a miracle to others, but it is to me.

You see, I’ve learned a few other lessons from that experience. That picture was lost and buried- mixed up with material that was not of its worth. It sat there, forgotten, and forsaken. 

Or was it? 

ALL ALONG

You see, God never forgot about that picture. He knew where it was the whole time. He devised a plan, putting everything in motion, to help me recover it. 

Some might scoff at this and think, “Why would God care about one little photo? It’s such an inconsequential thing.” But that’s what I believe is the message behind the miracle.

Because he did know, he did care. 

And if he cared enough about one family photo, how much must he care about you and me? About our lives? Our destinies? 

So yes, there will be times when we feel lost, buried, trashed, unappreciated, forgotten, forsaken, and even unknown. And while those feelings are genuine and powerful, that doesn’t make them accurate. He knows what we need and how to get there. He won’t forsake us. 

I have learned some very tender lessons through discovering my ancestors- including understand myself and my purpose better. I have found much-needed strength at times that I know hasn’t been my own. Their stories have become part of my story. It’s one of the most precious experiences I’ve had in life.

SEEING THE MIRACLES

After discovering this photo, my aunt sent me a copy of this other one on the right that she did have. Finding the one in the box, however, told the story of the second one- as you can see the lumber in the background of that one. What a blessing it is to know the story behind this sweet day for my great-grandparents. 

I believe that family history is a scope for seeing miracles in our lives and aligning our spirits with heaven and angels. Every time that I experience tender mercies like this, it reminds me that our Heavenly Father is in control. Even if I can’t see all the ways He is working in my behalf when I am going through a challenge, I can still trust that He is. I just have to push through and keep going. I’ll see the silver lining eventually. 

I don’t believe I am more entitled to extraordinary experiences than anyone else. If it can happen to me, and it has many times, it can happen for you. It won’t necessarily happen immediately, but the miracles will come. 

Most likely, these experiences won’t give you perfect faith or all the answers to life’s difficult trials, but they will help to strengthen your hope and help you to know you are not alone.

GRATITUDE & FAMILY HISTORY MIRACLES

That trip to my great-grandparent’s home will probably be the last one ever. My dad sold the house last year so he could move closer to family in his aging years. That was definitely for the best, but the day the home sold, my heart broke. Thankfully, I will always have those precious memories from my childhood- of the family gathered together, riding the 4-wheeler through the woods, walking under the majestic trees, the pecans, the pond, and fish catching locusts and frogs. I will miss how my dad would call me every spring and tell me that my magnolia tree was blooming. Those sacred memories are a part of me forever. 

I am so grateful that I got that last chance three years ago to be there- to walk that sacred ground, touch those walls again, play a role in preserving my family’s history there, and learn that angels and miracles do exist. 

So yes, I believe in family history miracles. And the joy follows is pretty incredible. 

FAMILY HISTORY MIRACLES ARE IN STORE FOR YOU TOO

If you want to witness this for yourself, then work on your family history. Just start. Make those connections to your family, heaven, and the life you are meant to have. And guess what? Your experiences will be more miraculous because they will be personal, applicable, and uniquely catered to you and your needs. Isn’t that amazing? This truth will weave itself into your heart far better than anything I could ever say by your own experiences. In short, they will be your family history miracles. I only hope that my words give you the curiosity to seek them out for yourself.

Painting of the house by my aunt, Gayle Reaves.

If you are like me and starting out with very little photos of your ancestors, make sure to read the following post where I share my tried-and-true tips to acquiring your own!

How To Navigate the Family Tree In FamilySearch

How To Navigate the Family Tree In FamilySearch

     I am so excited to share some of the amazing features you can use with the family tree on FamilySearch! There are so many ways that these advancements can be utilized. If you haven’t explored them before, I hope that you will do so and make some new discoveries! (To get to the family tree, just click on Family Tree from the homepage or on the menu bar from any page on FamilySearch, as highlighted below. And if you need help getting started setting up your family tree in FamilySearch, start with this post HERE.)

Note- This tutorial shows the web browser view. Various viewing options are also available on the family tree app but are not shown here.

In these first three photos, you will see the default view of the tree.  This view of the tree is called LANDSCAPE.  As you will see below on the top left, there is a drop down menu with other options.  Landscape view is great for seeing the people’s names, dates and relationships as well. Look for the drop down menu below each couple, which will give you a list of their children. You can use to arrows to the right to branch out on each family line.  

This next view is called PORTRAIT. Use the drop down menu to select portrait.  If you have a lot of photos in your tree, this is a great way to visually see your family members in the tree.  Use the arrows above a line to branch out. This is also the view which is used on the app. 

The next view is the fan chart. The fan chart was recently updated and I LOVE IT!!! This is super fun and worth sitting at the computer for.  Once you get to the fan chart from the drop down menu, there will be another drop down menu with 6 options! Family lines just gives you the basic fan chart. 

When you click on birth countries, it gets more exciting and you will see the country of origin of each person. There is a key on the right to tell you what country each color stands for. Below are two examples.  This is a great way to get a birds-eye view of your tree and some of your heritage! Also, make sure your “generations” tab is selected as 7– to give you a greater view of the tree. That selection is just next to the fan chart menu on top left. 

If your tree doesn’t go back that far, that’s ok! I love that the fan chart can help you see what IS missing in your tree- and an idea of where it could use your help! Many people don’t know where to start in their family history research, and I believe this fan chart will help many people to find the answer to that question! The holes in your tree can be a great jumping off point! 

This next setting is for SOURCES.  Sources are typically records, cemetery/ headstone information, books, links or anything helpful that gives proof or indicators about that person’s life.  The more sources you can find on a person, the more you can get an overview and understanding about what their life may have been like.  Sources can help you know who they married, how many children they had, if they served in the military, jobs they worked, etc.  Sources are an invaluable resource! 

In this view of the tree, it is so helpful in that you can see how many sources are attached to each person. White means no sources and dark orange means ten or more (with indicators in between as well).  So, if I see someone in the tree here who is white or pale orange, that might be a good place for me to start.  Not only do sources help to paint a life story, but when I see a person with zero sources, I know that it’s not just records that are missing- but often times family members too.  By finding some family records, I will frequently find missing children who have not been added to the tree.  There are many discoveries left to be made and its really exciting! 

The next tab is for STORIES.  I love that this is included because I love reading stories of other people’s lives–especially within my own family.  But in all fairness, this doesn’t necessarily mean it is always a story that has been attached to that person.  It could be a note, a memory, a life sketch or even a theory that has been attached by a contributor.  Or, it could be an actual story or even a journal entry! Those are like gold!!! 

I love this feature for a few reasons-

1) You may find stories and information that has been added by others that you have never seen.

2)  It shows who has little to no stories attached. This is a wonderful invitation to find and add some.

3) This tool can help bridge the gap between us and those who came before us. 

4) It can help young people to quickly and easily find a story of an ancestor to read about, share in a lesson, or use in a school assignment.  There are so many possibilities of how this feature could be used!  

The next option is PHOTOS.  Again- I absolutely love this feature! I have always loved photos and I love finding them for my family members.  I am so appreciative when someone shares photos I have never seen.  In this day and age of technology, I love that we can share photos so easily and that so many people can enjoy the blessings of getting to see an old photo of their ancestor.  Photos are treasures and I love getting to see what is available in the tree. 

Since FamilySearch has a collaborative tree, this is one of the benefits of that group effort! As with the sources and stories, a white section of the fan chart is an invitation to find and add photos of your ancestors.

There are many who will be grateful for your willingness to add these precious memories to FamilySearch.  There is also peace of mind that comes with having a backup to family photographs.

The next feature is for RESEARCH HELPS.  These are little messages letting us know there is a suggestion (in purple) , an error or question (in red) with the information already in there (for example-a child that was born after the mother was deceased), or actual record hints (in blue).  Those blue tabs/ RECORD HINTS are MANNA FROM HEAVEN! They aren’t always for the right person, so please do review the information carefully to see if it is a match, but the back end of FamilySearch does a great job of suggesting records for the right person! Take advantage of the computer doing the work for you! 

Below is another feature if you’d like to view the tree in a different color.  Under the OPTIONS tab on the upper right corner, use the drop down menu to select INVERT COLORS.  This will change the background colors to grey and some people prefer this style better. 

Under that INVERT COLORS selection, you can also select Print.  

You can print a PDF of the tree in the portrait view.  This will show you four generations beyond the selected person and also their children and spouses.  You can print the tree with anyone as the main person.  So, for instance, if I want to print my great grandmother’s tree, I would go to her person page and then click VIEW TREE on HER PAGE.  This will then show me JUST her line (not her spouse’s, for instance).  

These printed trees are great in an album, framed and even as gifts.   

There is one more view of the tree- which is DESCENDANCYbut I am going to devote a separate post to that since it has a lot of features of its own.  Basically, instead of the typical ascending family tree, it will descend from an ancestor back towards you.   It shows their children and grandchildren- their descendants!

I hope that this tutorial has shown you a few features that can help you explore your family history in a new way. Feel free to leave any questions you may have about this post! 

Also, I’d love to know – What is your favorite view of the tree and how has it helped or enlightened you? Please comment below! 

Free Thanksgiving Printable For Family Interviews

Free Thanksgiving Printable For Family Interviews

     Thanksgiving is such a special holiday when loved ones are brought together through the bonds of family, friendship, tradition, food and gratitude. Because of the beautiful combination of blessings that we celebrate this day, Thanksgiving has the power to help us feel the magic of nostalgia. Another wonderful thing about Thanksgiving is that it is a wonderful time to have conversations with our loved ones as we break bread together. This makes it a perfect opportunity to get your family members talking and document their memories and stories!      To get you started, we have a Thanksgiving questionnaire that is a free printable. You could use it as a template and ask the questions for an audio recording. Another option is that you can print off a copy for each person and put the finished copies together in a book. This would be a great way of preserving not only memories, but also each person’s handwriting for that year. Just make sure names and dates are also written on each paper!      This is an activity you could do year after year and see how (especially with young people) their answers change over time! The important thing is taking time to preserve memories and remember what makes your family Thanksgiving traditions so meaningful! 

Just fill in the information in the box and the full resolution download will be sent to your inbox! Happy Thanksgiving!

In Remembrance of A WWI Hero

In Remembrance of A WWI Hero

         In honor of Veteran’s Day and the armistice that ended WWI  101 years ago today (on the 11th hour on the 11th day in the 11th month), I’d like to share the story of my own personal war hero- my great- grandfather. 

     On July 16, 1892, in the quaint town of Taylorsville, Mississippi, my great grandfather, William Grover Yelverton, was born. Life was simple for that farm boy with sky blue eyes and a smile that produced two dimples. He was raised in a large family that grew up on love, hard work, and good ole southern food and values. As his granddaughter, I have the honor of affectionately calling him “Daddy Grover”.

     In the summer of 1917, Grover was drafted into “the war to end all wars.” For a young man whom had never been anywhere but home, I can only imagine what he felt at this call. I have a photo of him that was taken at the end of his basic training that to this day sits framed on my piano. The young man I see in that photo was handsome, confident and courageous. I believe he was excited for unseen adventures as he donned a crisp new uniform, haircut and skills.

Since his media exposure consisted solely of the small local newspaper, his expectations of the outside world were most likely created in the chambers of his own imagination. Although I am certain there were fears of the unknown, I believe his bravery stood out front and center. I am so thankful we have a photo of that unseasoned boy because the man that returned home at the end of the war was a different person.

     Upon receiving his draft notice, he was assigned to the 18th (this later became the 39th) Infantry Division, 114th Engineers and sent to Camp Beauregard, LA for training. Sickness and disease ran rampant at Camp Beauregard. They were plagued with outbreaks of measles, meningitis, and Spanish Flu. This led to lobar pneumonia in many patients; overcrowding the already taxed hospital facilities. The soldiers were anxious to get to France because of bug infestations and poor conditions.

     When he finally reached France, Grover’s varied responsibilities included building bridges, roads and railroads for the 1st Army Corps. The roads they constructed through the Argonne forest were especially treacherous because of the mountainous terrain. They had to cut the path through huge timber and rocks and then level the ground. This operation was vital to success in the war so that tanks, vehicles, and equipment could be taken to the front lines. The engineers also built pontoon bridges across the Meuse and Rhine Rivers for crossing.

On one occasion, as the 39th division was in the river constructing a bridge, German tanks and soldiers pulled up to the river bank. American tanks pulled up on the other side and an attack ensued. Grover and the other engineers were caught in the crossfire and had to fight hard and fast to survive. Being the largest and bloodiest battle of WWI, infantry divisions were quickly depleted in the Meuse-Argonne Offensive. Manpower situations became so desperate that all available troops, including those slated as training, depot or engineer divisions; such as the 39th; were deployed to the front lines. That included my great-grandpa. He wasn’t trained as a rifleman, but he bravely fulfilled that role when he was called.

     In the midst of battle, Grover suffered the debilitating effects of mustard gas at the hands of the German army. Although he was initially given a gas mask, he was told during an inspection that it was defective and to throw it away. A new one was supposed to be issued to him but was never delivered. The mustard gas he was exposed to caused permanent damage to his lungs and significant respiratory issues for the rest of his life.

     During the war, homing pigeons were used as a new tactic to transfer messages between military lines. The birds carried letters in small canisters around their necks or legs. When they landed in the coop, a bell would ring and a soldier would remove the message from the canister. The 39th division was responsible for several war pigeons and Grover took great pride in caring for them. He mourned over his birds that were shot by enemy troops and tried his best to keep them safe, clean and comfortable. His love of animals, even in time of war, exemplified his loving heart and protective nature.

     The multifarious efforts from the engineers and their assistance in combat were such an advantage to Allied forces in WWI that Germany began to pull back and ultimately, the war came to an end on November 11, 1918. Five months later, my great-grandpa’s unit, the 114th Engineers, returned home to Newport News, Virginia. By the end of his military career, Grover Yelverton was promoted to the rank of Corporal.

     After Grover returned from the war, he married Wessie Butler, a young school teacher from Mize, Mississippi. Industry was changing the world and it was an exciting time in America. For a time, Grover worked on the railroad, a skill he learned in the war, but the lung damage he sustained combined with the physical requirements put him at a disadvantage. His employers were not sympathetic to his plight and rebuked him at times for not working fast enough. He eventually made the difficult decision to trade in his engineering days for farming.

Farming was a livelihood where he could work at his own pace and was a blessing to his young family during the Great Depression. Farming didn’t fill their pocketbooks, but it did fill their bellies. Grover and Wessie became the parents of nine beautiful children. Around 1938, they bought 40 acres of land and built a home and bigger farm.

     The trauma of war created many other struggles for this good man. Loud or sudden noises would make him jumpy and give him flashbacks. My grandmother (his daughter), remembered a time she was in the field with her dad. The approaching drone of a small twin-engine plane in the distance caused him to jump and run toward the trees for cover. That was twenty years or more after he had been in the war and yet, the trauma still lingered.

     At that time, the term “shell-shocked” was newly coined and highly misunderstood. Originally thought to have been brain damage caused by exploding shells, soldiers and veterans who experienced this were considered emotionally weak, lazy and cowardly. They were often reprimanded, labeled, court-martialed and some were even executed for this condition. Once, while confiding in a counselor at the VA hospital about some of his symptoms, Daddy Grover was denied sympathy but told he was probably “just schizophrenic”. Dejected, he vowed to never return to the VA.

     With such limited resources, many veterans turned to alcohol to self-medicate but thankfully, somehow, my great-grandpa escaped that trap. Instead, he found therapy in nature- gardening and taking long walks in the woods. I wonder what occupied his thoughts on those moments of solitude. I imagine he battled feelings of inadequacy, fear, and anxiety but I also hope that he felt God’s love and grace as he navigated through those storms of life. He found companionship in his beloved mule, Henry, but ultimately, his oldest son, “Brother”, became his best friend and confidant. Daddy Grover was very protective of his children and made it his personal responsibility to keep others out of harm’s way. It is my personal belief that his strong nature to protect and defend was a blessing to many during his war days.

     For the man whose future at one point seemed full of possibility and adventure, those ambitions were ultimately shelved for a simpler life. He gave so much to our freedoms and the price he paid was loss of respect and health. And though he may have been disheartened by his limitations, the time he spent sharing simple joys with his children and grandchildren- like how to pull up a row of peanuts in one fell swoop or how to cut a watermelon like a champ are the moments I wish I could have witnessed with my own eyes.

     After a lifetime of wheezing, pain, and coughing, William Grover Yelverton died in 1965 at the age of 73 from lung cancer due to damage sustained from mustard gas. I never got to know him in this life, but earthly bounds can’t break the connection I feel to him.

     Today marks 101 years since the Armistice was signed that ended WWI and I’d like to pay homage to him and that great event that preserved my great-grandfather’s life, and gave me the opportunity to be born. Although this tribute to Daddy Grover is long overdue, his sacrifice has never expired. The opportunities he dreamed of and fought for may not have been enjoyed in his own life, but were gifted to me instead. I am humbled to have him as my hero.

In honor of Veteran’s Day, I would like to express my gratitude to all who have sacrificed- veterans and their families, friends and communities- that personally paid for our freedom. Thank you!

How To Connect with your Ancestors

How To Connect with your Ancestors

     Can we really learn more about OURSELVES by studying our ancestors? Many people talk about having a connection with those who have gone before but there are also some who do not believe that privilege is available to everyone and question whether they are entitled to that kind of experience.  I personally and emphatically believe we all can find connections to our ancestors! You just have to know how to access it- or even know how to get started.  

     These tips are in no certain order, (in fact, you can pick and choose from these ideas), but are a few ways to begin to connect to YOUR ancestors.

READ THEIR STORIES

If you are fortunate enough to have written stories and memories of your ancestors, read them! Stories have the power to connect us with others in a way that nothing else can. As you read those stories, try to relate and imagine what they went through. What qualities did your ancestor possess that are admirable to you? What similarities do you find in their stories to your life? Do you notice any personality similarities? Even if their experiences were different than your own, ponder why they told the stories they did. What do you think they wanted their posterity to know? Why were they important to document and share? Take time to appreciate the gift of those stories and memories. They truly are a gift!

FIND, STUDY, & COMPARE THEIR PHOTOS

 This photo comparison above is of my great grandmother on the left and my daughter on the right Aren’t they both so beautiful? I’m so proud! And although my daughter may not be an exact spitting-image of her great-great-grandmother, I definitely see a close resemblance. I absolutely love doing photo comparisons with my family photos. It’s so fun to see how different family members can take after someone so much- even a few generations back.

 Some of you may say, “Well, you are so lucky to have photos of your ancestors because I don’t have any!” If so, guess what? Neither did I when I began this journey.  I literally had NONE!

Through researching my family, I was able to find some online (Mostly on Ancestry.com) and I found many others through asking extended family members- often times, I did not know them beforehand. 

Don’t have any (or many) photos of your ancestors? No problem. Check out my tried-and-true method for finding some!

Click the link below.  

Once you have gathered some photos, take the time to study them. Look at your ancestors’ features and expressions (remember that many old cameras had very slow shutters, and the subjects were told not to smile but sit very still so that the photo wouldn’t be blurry). Observe their clothes, their surroundings, and any other clues you can glean from the picture.

What can you gather about their lives from that photo? Make a list of ideas. As you study their features, what or who do you see? Do you see any similarities to yourself or other family members? Do some side by side comparisons and look for resemblances. Makes notes of your observations so you can combine your ideas with additional research.

When I began to make photo comparisons with my own ancestors’ photos and my living family, I had a fascinating realization. It seems to me when there’s a physical connection; there is often a very spiritual connection to those ancestors too. We inherit more than physical features. Personality, temperament, and talents are also often inherited.

Family history can be a mirror into who we are and why- if you are willing to look! The beautiful thing is that we usually reflect traits from more than one ancestor, although sometimes we may favor one more than another. This gives us the opportunity to investigate many ancestors and find connections with each one of them. Photos are a fun place to explore, but they, alone, will not teach you enough about your ancestors to make a genuine connection. You need details of their life as well.

Research your ancestor's life

To really get to know your ancestors, you need to research their life and gather as many details as you can. Collect the unwritten stories and details from living family members if available.  If that isn’t possible, study their life through their records and historical context.  Here is a simple checklist to get you started:  

    1. Start by creating a timeline of your ancestor’s life from birth to death dates. As you review documents and information, you can fill in the events and places. This will also show you any “gaps” in information and years and help you to know what to look for. 
    2. As mentioned earlier, look for stories on family history sites such as Family Search and Ancestry that other family members have contributed. Benefit from the work of others! 
    3. Use census reports to learn where they were born, where they lived during that census, what their profession was, and who they lived with, etc. Census reports can sometimes give you a lot of information. Make sure the VIEW THE IMAGE as it often has more information than what is given on the index. 
    4. Research the geography and legal history of your family’s location. Understanding these factors can give you a deeper perspective of the circumstances of your family and also help you to understand why they made the choices they did.
    5. Land records can give you specific information and dates to the family homestead and can help you to know when they may have moved from another town/ state/ country to their new land. 
    6. Church records can help confirm vital events like births/ baptisms, marriages, and deaths.
    7. Family records, such as found in family bibles, can give wonderful details into birth, marriage, and death information for family members. This is especially helpful for children who may not have lived long enough to be on a census record. I have found some of these bible records on Ancestry.com.
    8. Newspapers can hold a treasure trove of information- and even photos. You can often find birth, marriage, military, death, and relocation announcements- not to mention this is where you may find some mysteries and scandals!
    9. Document all the children they had and research them as well. By researching the whole family, you will discover a much richer story and find answers to questions than you would if you only research your direct line ancestors. 
    10. Find out if any of their children died young or went off to war, etc.
    11. What difficulties and trials did they overcome?
    12. Look in family books if available. These can be invaluable resources. Click the link below for a tutorial on how to find these books {for FREE} online.  

    After you have compiled all the information you can find on your ancestor, review it and think about their life from a personal stand-point. These were real people with real lives. What did they overcome? What did they work to accomplish? What was their legacy? 

    Get your DNA TESTED!

    And get your family members to test too!

    ‘DNA and genetics are truly remarkable! I continue to be enlightened by this journey of learning of my ancestors through my DNA results. I took a DNA test through Ancestry.com and have loved their features and results! Their genetic bank is the largest in the world (hence more matches), their science is advancing very quickly, and I am learning new things all the time about who I am through my DNA! 

    I never thought I looked like either of my parents very much but now I think I mostly take after two of my great grandparents. As I gathered any known information from living family members about them, I was so amazed to see that my DNA confirmed that I had a very strong genetic connection to those great grandparents. 

    The first one is my great grandmother in the photo posted above with my daughter. Her name was Ellen and I was the only child to inherit her blood type (that skipped two generations before passed down to me). She was my father’s paternal grandmother.  (If you’d like to read more about how my connection to her grew through a very difficult time in my life, you can READ HERE.) 

    I also feel a special connection and kinship to my great-grandfather on my mothers side. I got his close-set eyes (my mom did not! She got her dad’s Irish eyes ). I’ve learned through stories about him that I also got his over-protectiveness. I am not very outspoken but if someone I love is being threatened, all inhibitions go out the window. I can defend others much better than I can defend myself! Go figure. Ha! I was amazed upon doing our DNA tests to learn that I matched his side of the family higher than my sisters did. So, was my spirit connected and drawn to him as well? I believe it was. 

    Quick DNA Match Lesson

    You can learn more about your DNA by comparing your amount of cM’s that you share with  cousin matches in your DNA results.

    Centimorgans (cM) are the units of measurable repetitive pieces of DNA that you share with family that are used to determine relationships.

    If you you share more cM’s with cousins on your grandmother’s side than your grandfather’s side, then you can start to determine that you may take after your grandmother’s side more. You’ll need to compare as many cousins as possible to get more accurate conclusions. This process will be exponentially enhanced when you have siblings also take a DNA test and they share their results with you!   Viewing their results or asking them to compare their # of cM with different family lines can show you which of you match cousins higher and having their results to compare with can show you if you are higher or lower with certain family members.

    For example, if my sister and I both look at our cousin match, Joseph Brown, and she shares 328 cM’s and I have 435 cM’s, then there’s the likelihood that I have more Brown DNA.

    Cousin Matches on ancestry

     This picture above is an example of cousin matches on Ancestry. The best cousin matches are the ones with a tree (see circled tree symbol with # of people in tree under name and description). If there is a green leaf beside their tree, that means you both have the same person(s) in your family trees on Ancestry and you can click on that leaf to see your connection to them. That feature will help you to figure out your relation. Also circled is the amount to cM’s shared under the name.

    Make notes of each family line that you are connected strongly to -emotionally or genetically- and any details that described the family.  What were their lives like? What were their livelihoods, talents, traditions, religion, etc.  How do you feel about each of those lifestyles? Have you shared any similar life experiences? 

    Also, make a list of WHO YOU ARE to the core.  What are your talents, fears, beliefs, etc.  Start making comparisons to see if you think any of those things could be inherited. How are you similar or different from your immediate family members? If everyone was a product of their environment, then all siblings would turn out the same.  Right? (Or, for the most part.)

    But they don’t. There is much more to us than just environmental influences and genetics play a big role in who we are. 

    This may sound like a tedious process, but actually, it is so FUN!  You will find that discovering connections typically won’t be difficult or forced at all.  As you learn about your ancestors or look at that photo, you will feel something inside of you. It will come naturally. Sometimes you will connect over a similarity or common trait or talent.  But most often, you will connect over love. As you discover what your ancestor’s life was like, even if you can’t relate, you will have an admiration for them and love them for their strength, faith, and endurance.  That connection will continue to grow and you will feel that they are part of you and you are part of them. 

    And really, weren’t they all along? I certainly believe so! I just think we may not have taken the time to notice.  Learning about my ancestors has been one of the greatest things I have ever done.  It’s hard to explain the power and love that accompanies this journey- much like it is hard to explain a parent’s love for a child.  But it is natural and incredibly strong and can come on so suddenly.  If you haven’t had that experience yet, don’t give up. Keep learning and searching and one day, I know you will have an opportunity to love and connect with your ancestors. 

    Have you had any experiences connecting with your ancestors? I’d love to hear about it. Comment below! 

    How to Discover If there Are Children Missing In Your Tree

    How to Discover If there Are Children Missing In Your Tree

    This tutorial shares a quick tip on discovering if there are MISSING children in your family tree using Ancestry and the 1900 and 1910 censuses. One of my greatest joys doing family history is when I find a baby or child, who has been otherwise forgotten and adding them to back with their family in the family tree where they belong! I hope this will help you find some long-lost children in your family. 

    Quick Trick for Hard to Find Records- Video Tutorial

    Quick Trick for Hard to Find Records- Video Tutorial

    This two-minute video is part of a series of quick Tuesday Tutorials, shared on our social media pages, to give bite-size research tips. This video shares how to expand your search options to see if new records pop up, when they have been otherwise difficult to find. This process especially works well if the family or the person moved around from place to place. I hope this little tip will be helpful!

    How To Find Your Ancestor’s Photos on Family Search

    How To Find Your Ancestor’s Photos on Family Search

     Seeing an ancestor’s photo for the first time is a magical thing- especially if you have searched and hoped to find one.  I have personally been on a mission the last few years to find as many photos as possible of my progenitors and it has been a wonderful labor of love.  It has taken some time since I started out with NONE but I have definitely found success! My hope is that I can share some tips to help you do the same and also save some time in the process.  

    This post is #1 in a 10 part series I am working on to show you the best resources for finding family photos with ease- and certainly with reward! 

     Since Family Search is free and is built as a collaborative SHARED FAMILY TREE, it is a great place to start your search.  In this tutorial, I will show you two ways to quickly navigate the site and find photos of your ancestors.

    NOTE Make sure you have already created a free family search account and connected to the tree.  I have another tutorial on that HERE if you need help getting started.  Once you have set up your tree, come back to this post and follow the steps below.

    Method One: 

    From the home page on Family Search, click on Family Tree.

    (see photo below for example) 

     

    This will take you to the tree.  In the TOP LEFT corner, make sure to SELECT:
    FAN CHART
    7 GENERATIONS
    PHOTOS (in drop down menu)

    Those with photos attached will appear light to dark orange.  The more photos attached to a person, the darker they will show up in the fan chart. 

    FOR A FULL TUTORIAL ON NAVIGATING THE Family Tree & FAN CHART, GO HERE.

     

    To see what photos are attached to that person, click on their name right there in the fan chart.  It will bring up a description tab (see photo below). 

    I like to RIGHT CLICK on their NAME or where it says PERSON- and then click OPEN IN NEW TAB.  This isn’t necessary but does keep your fan chart open and takes you to a new page to view the person page.  I just find this easier.  But either way, go to the PERSON PAGE. 

    Once you are on the PERSON PAGE, look for the MEMORIES tab.  Click on that. 

    Now you can peruse through the photos (and stories too).  Don’t forget to click on MORE if it is displayed in the bottom left corner (see arrow in photo below) to open up ALL of the pictures in their memories. 

    And that’s it for the first method.  Just repeat as desired with others in your tree! 

    METHOD TWO: From the HOME PAGE, Click on MEMORIES and select OVERVIEW from Drop Down Menu. 

    This will take you to the MEMORIES page where you will have several options for adding photos yourself etc., but for this tutorial, we are going to scroll down the page to the section where you can find photos others have uploaded. 

     

    Go to the panel- Discover the memories others have shared about your family. Click on SEE MORE PEOPLE. 

    Also, note that any time you want to WATCH a person, you can click on the star and you will be notified via email anytime someone adds or makes changes to that profile. 

    Just look at this beautiful album of memories to explore! These are your “close family members” which may include parents, grandparents, siblings, aunts, uncles and cousins. These are only deceased individuals as Family Search keeps living people private and confidential. 

    To look at the photos, just click on the tab you want.  Again, I prefer to RIGHT CLICK and select OPEN IN NEW TAB so that I don’t lose my place on the memories page. This will take me to the individual person’s memories for viewing. 

    Another option is to search within this menu by name.  Just type in the name in the top right-hand corner.  This will show you what is available for that family. 

    And that’s it for method two.  It’s pretty easy and fun to reap the fruits of other people’s generous acts of sharing! I would also like to add that if you do have family photos in your posession, please upload them and do the same for others.  There will be many grateful for your willingness to share the wonderful treasures of family photos! 

    Please let me know if you have any questions! Happy hunting! 

    How to Unlock Your Family History in Free Online Books

    How to Unlock Your Family History in Free Online Books

    (SCROLL TO END OF POST FOR TWO QUICK VIDEO TUTORIALS ON FINDING FAMILY HISTORY BOOKS.)

          Family history books are one of my favorite resources for searching for family! However, it was not long ago that I didn’t even know there were any that existed for my family lines.  I am excited to share how you can find some of these great treasure troves and put them to use in building your tree and knowledge of your ancestors and heritage!

     There are many times when looking for records to verify an ancestor’s life, location, surname, spouse, parents, etc. just doesn’t exist or is sparse.  I have run into this challenge many times when researching before the 1850’s.  One of my favorite tools to combat this issue lies in BOOKS! Before there were many official records, many families kept books and family bibles to keep up with their lineage and history.  While this isn’t a guarantee, finding family books can often help break through those brick walls and help you learn many details about your family history.  Family Search has been collecting and gathering FAMILY HISTORY BOOKS from all over the world and indexes about 200 per day!!! That’s pretty incredible! This collection of more than 440,000 digitized genealogy and family history books includes county and local histories, genealogy magazines, family trees, gazetteers, folklore, stories, and even medieval histories! Family Search has also recently updated their search page and has made it easier than ever to view many of these books online. 

    Below is a step by step tutorial for using this valuable research tool. It’s very user-friendly so don’t get intimidated! First you will need an account on FamilySearch.org. (It’s free.) 

    From the home page on Family Search, hover over Search and then go down the menu and click on BOOKS.

     

    This will take you to the library search page where you will type in your search keywords. I will often try a combination of-

    *Person’s full name

    *Surname alone

    *Other connected surnames (like spouse or mother’s maiden) 

    *Town, County or State (narrow down as much as possible and then expand as needed.)

    *Church name (if known)

     The trick is to BE CREATIVE with your search. You may hit the jackpot with only a name, but often times I will find more success if I combine search keywords such as EDMONDSON (surname) NORTH CAROLINA (state). 

     OR (see how I added the state):

    After you click SEARCH, you can view the results.

    Once I find a book that might have information that I am looking for, then click on FULL TEXT RESULTS. The best finds are the ones that have PUBLIC ACCESS (below).  This is great news because this means you will be allowed to view the book’s entirety online- hence the fireworks I added. 🙂

    Go ahead and click Full TEXT RESULTS.  If the book is thoroughly indexed, it will bring up pages where your keyword is mentioned.  You can click VIEW and go straight to that page. 

     

    Once you click on VIEW, it will open your book! Yay!

    Another cool feature to remember is that once you are inside the book, you can search within it.  Just change the keyword in the top left corner and see if it is mentioned in the book. 

    For example, I had family who lived along the Pee Dee River in North and South Carolina so I searched that to see if there was any mention of that.  And there was! My search words are even highlighted in the book. I will often search other first names in my family this way.  

    If access to a book is marked as PROTECTED (below), don’t immediately disregard it.  There are ways to see if it has information you need and if so, then you can work on obtaining a copy.

    To do so, click on FULL TEXT RESULTS.  Even if it is protected, it will still display sections of the book that contain your keyword.  Read through the information given and see if it is worth pursuing further. 

    If you feel that the book has useful information for your research but is copyrighted or says it can only be viewed from the family history library, I would suggest calling and talking to someone at the Salt Lake City Family History Library directly. This could also apply if the book is only partially indexed and stored in the vault.  By talking to someone there, they can tell you exactly the process that is needed to obtain access to the book (since many situations are different).  Just make sure you write down the title, author and the identification number before you call to speed up the process.  You may be able to request a loan of the book through another library, hire someone to do the research and scans for you, or see if you can request to view the book online through a family history center near you.  The workers there are very helpful and there are ways to get the information if you’re willing to go the extra mile. 

    Another option is to take the title of the book and search for the book on AmazonGoogle and Bookfinder4U.  You may be able to buy outright a copy for a great price. 

    And of course, if your search result didn’t produce anything helpful, go back, change your keyword and start over again.  This process can take some time but there is a wealth of information to be found and worth the search! If you’ve had experience with the book search, I’d love to hear about it! Comment below. 

    The Secret to Strong & Happy Families

    The Secret to Strong & Happy Families

    The Challenge of Our Day

    One of the biggest struggles families face today is learning how to navigate through the challenges and unknowns of smartphones and social media. The research is starting to roll in about the toll it can take on mental and emotional health.   

    As a parent myself, I worry about the obstacles my children face in a world that is different than the one I grew up in. We have not been trained by our own parents on how to raise a family in this environment. We are the first generation to tread this path and we are learning as we go. However, the thought of our children being guinea pigs isn’t very comforting. I do not believe that technology is bad. There are many wonderful benefits to having these tools and resources! But, I believe most parents want to know how to keep their families balanced and strong. 

     

    A HOPEFUL STUDY

    I was intrigued when I came across an article in The New York Times Magazine entitled “The Stories that Bind Us”, that offered some amazing insight on helping families in today’s world. It has become one of my favorites. The author asked the questions, “What is the secret sauce that holds a family together? What are the ingredients that make some families effective, resilient, happy?”  (Bruce Feiler, 2013) 

    Fortunately for us, Feiler spent a few YEARS researching this question! I am only highlighting the conclusion of his studies, so I highly recommend you use the link below to read the entire article. It is very insightful!

    Feiler says, “The single most important thing you can do for your family may be the simplest of all: develop a strong family narrative.”

    What Family Stories Should Be Passed Down?

    What Family Stories Should Be Passed Down?

    I believe all families have some sort of family lore, tragedies, and heartbreak that we question whether or not we should pass down to younger generations.  It can seem wrong to burden a child with the sad circumstances of the past.  This question has come to my mind over several topics.  But there is one that stands out in particular because of the reaction I get when I share it with others. 

    When I was a child, my mother, grandmother and older siblings sang me an old folktale song called Babes in the Woods. It’s a tragic lullaby that tells the story of two children who were lost in the woods and ultimately die.  The last lines of the song have always been poignant to me- “Now don’t you remember poor babes in the Woods?”

    As an adult, I have shared this song with my children and many others. People who have not grown up with this song think it is morbidly horrific and possibly borders on child abuse to sing it to a sleepy child. Haha.

    I do understand why others feel this way yet I can’t leave this song in my past. I just can’t walk away from it. Perhaps it feels as if the poor babes in the woods are being left alone all over again- this time by me. 

    I would like to share with you why this tragic little folk song means so much to me and how that relates to other life experiences. I hope you may relate as well.

    1) Tradition– Babes in the Woods has been passed down in my family for generations. It was written in 1601 in England by Robert Yarrington, but I’m not sure how or when my family inherited the song. I do know my great grandparents sang it to my grandmother and her siblings shortly after WWI. Although I don’t know where they learned the song, I imagine it was sung to one of them by their parents. Passing down this song is passing down part of my history. The lyrics may be about two lost children but the tune and nostalgia that are sung tell a different story- a story of my family rocking in a chair, snuggled on a bed or pallet (if you are from the south you know what a pallet is!) and most importantly, being sung to by my mother and grandmother. The words may have been sad but there was safety in our connection and in the familiarity.

    2) Inheritance– This is similar to tradition, but I believe deserves its own category. Growing up, I was just a poor, little Mississippi girl. We didn’t own fancy things or go on expensive vacations. However, I was raised on manners and kindness, good southern cookin’, and playing outside barefoot on hot summer days.  We caught crawfish, lizards and locusts.  We watched the Price is Right like it was part of our religion.  I remember falling asleep on my grandmother’s bed to the voice of Johnny Carson.  There was all the love, kindness, hardship, worries, stories and music a young girl could squeeze in to a budding life. I can’t give my own children the same childhood I had because times have changed so much and I also don’t live in my beloved home state anymore. I only have a few simple heirlooms that belonged to my grandparents. 

    What I can hand down to my children are the stories and music that are written in my soul and part of my heritage.  But it’s up to me to recognize the treasure that they are and pass them down for that reason. It’s important for me to teach my children why these are some of the greatest gifts that can be handed down. If I don’t, the memories and songs could easily be forgotten instead of becoming the legacy they are meant to be. This is my inheritance and my responsibility.  Not all of the memories are sad or tragic, but a few are- and they belong too.

    3) Nostalgia– Who doesn’t love the feeling of nostalgia- that feeling that takes you back to another time and place and often times with people who are no longer with us anymore?  If we can preserve memories, then we can tap into nostalgic feelings and remember and appreciate those blessed times of the past. Nostalgia is a little bit magical in my opinion. 

    4) Resilience– We all have stories in our past or in our family’s past that are sad or uncomfortable. Often times, we leave them there because we want to forget. There are times where that may be best, appropriate and certainly understandable. But are we doing this too often? I believe the sad things that our family members went through and survived shows resilience! When I look back on the trials my grandparents and great grandparents went through- such as the Great Depression, the World Wars, and losing children, I feel a reverence and respect for them. I am in awe at their strength. When I in turn am going through a trial of my own, I think of them and how they survived much harder things.  It makes me realize that I come from strong stock. Their genes and blood run through me. I know if they could make it through what they did, then I can make it through my own trials too. Babes in the Woods is symbolic of the sad things that happen in this life.  My great grandmother believed it was important that children weren’t completely shielded from sad news and experiences.  She wanted us to have compassion, grit and resilience. It’s funny though, because even though she sometimes taught us the hard truth, all I remember about her is love.  

    5) Understanding Feelings– Babes in the Woods is a reminder to me that not all stories have a happy ending. There are sad times in life. And while sad feelings are uncomfortable, they are part of life for all of us. Acknowledging sad feelings doesn’t give them more power. By understanding why we are sometimes sad, we are the ones who gain power and ultimately move on to joy. We can’t escape sadness so if we choose to give it a little bit of space, it won’t have to compete with the other elements and feelings of our life. Recognizing trials and tragedy as part of a beautiful life is profound. We shouldn’t feel shame about handing down a few sad stories that are written in our history. This is how we teach our children and grandchildren that it is okay to sometimes be sad. Feelings are temporary.  Our grandparents understood this.  It is why so many of them have said to us,  “This too shall pass.” 

    6) Remembrance– Perhaps it is easier to let go of something that happened long ago but if there is a loss of a loved one, shouldn’t they be remembered? Who will tell their story if not us? Babes in the Woods is symbolic to me of those who have left this life, yet are still part of us and deserve to be remembered.  It makes me sad to think of how easily we can let some things go. We may find the words of this song sad, but what about the issue? Do we find it sad or even recognizable that we have lost some of our own?  I believe it is a form of respect to acknowledge our own babes in the woods-whether child or adult.

     I also believe this song is symbolic of how people taught their children.  They didn’t want their kids to get lost playing in the woods and they would sing them songs like this as a lesson.  I think that’s a neat part of our history- being taught by lore and song. You won’t find it dying out with me. 

    I’d like to share with you the words of Babes of the Woods.  There are a few variations and I believe our version changed a little over time- as with the tune as well. This is the version sung to me from my Smith County, Mississippi folks. 

           My dears do you know? 

    That a long time ago

    Two poor little children

    Their names I don’t know 

    Were stolen away 

    On a bright summer’s day 

    And were left in the woods

    I’ve heard people say 

    Now when it was night

    So sad was their plight

    The Sun Went Down

    And the Moon Gave no light

    They sobbed and they sighed

    But little they cried

    Then the poor little children 

    Just laid down and died

    And when they were dead

    The robins so red

    brought pretty green leaves

    And over them spread

    And all the night long

    They sang them a song

    Poor Babes in the Woods

    Poor Babes in the Woods

    Now Don’t You Remember Poor babes in the woods? 

    So, the next time you think about a story or even a tragedy from your family history, I would recommend that you sit with it a while and dissect why that story was important enough to be handed to you and if it could serve a purpose today with the younger generations.  I suggest you try to look beyond the surface feelings and dive deeper into the lessons and meanings behind it.  Is there something to be gained? The answer won’t always be yes and that is ok.  The point is to make intentional decisions about the history we leave behind- the good and the bad.  It’s important to remember that not all things have to have a happy ending to be meaningful and that a balance of the triumphs and heartbreaks is what real life is all about.  Sorrow can be a great teacher and thankfully, it doesn’t always have to be our own.  I truly believe that our experiences were not given to us to keep to ourselves but to help others learn valuable lessons as well.  One of the greatest gifts in this life is connection to others and our stories are how we get there. 

    A Time and a Place for Family History

    A Time and a Place for Family History

     

    I always knew that I would do family history someday.  I took pride in my heritage and loved my family, but I figured there was a time and a season to everything and this season was for raising my children.  Although that too was true, I also didn’t realize how much family history could benefit my life now until the experience found and changed me.  

    Three years ago today, I had what could only be described as a spiritual experience challenge me to learn about my great grandfather. I knew that he was a WWI veteran who had suffered the effects of mustard gas, but I really didn’t know much else. The nagging sense of responsibility I suddenly felt to learn more about him would help me through some very difficult challenges in my own life as I cared for a chronically sick child, and also would change my life forever. What started out as something simple, became an awakening in my soul. I found an instant love of family history. 

    Along this path, I have formed friends with like-minded people. I have found cousins and ultimately, I found myself. It may sound strange, but I have never felt so much like myself as I have since I started doing family history. It has become a passion and calling for me.

     For a while now, I have felt the need to start my own website where I can help others. That nagging feeling of responsibility is back and I am embarking into another chapter of this journey. My hope is that any of you who would like to know more about family history may glean some inspiration and help from this site. It may only be in its infancy stage, but there is love and meaning behind every part so far- including the name. The name is Kindred Grove, which was inspired by the man who started it all for me- Grover Yelverton. So, to my great grandpa, and to all of you who have forged this path with me over these last few years- this is for you and I thank you!

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